Oh, what lovely timing. I have just properly discovered Lindsay's writing and come here fresh from a delightful comment exchange with her on this topic of stories.
I'm realizing that these things can be true at the same time, that our stories made us who we are and that we don't have to stay stuck in them.
Thank you Tamzin for allowing Lindsay to share her story.
I never fully grasped the importance of maternal generational impact until recently, which I find astounding given I have spent my adult life peeling back the layers of self-knowing. This is part of myself I did not want to see. But once we see we cannot unsee.
While I have received many gifts from the women in my family there are a lot of things I need to release. I have work to do but am paying attention to see where their imprint shows up in my life and using my conscious, thinking mind to access the deeper part of me. Those ties that bind are wound tightly within. Thank you Lindsay.
Lindsay, our early trauma experiences - and our reactions to them - are similar. Hyper-vigilance and rescuing was how I coped too. I’ve been excavating my past, and familial patterns etc for five years now. It is important work! Thank you for writing about your experience.
Thank you for sharing this. I love Lindsay’s writing, it is always so considered, self-aware, deeply thought-provoking and yet comforting too. Thank you both! xx
I love Lindsay's work around memoir and mental health, so important to give our stories space. Really enjoyed this and totally agree about the benefits of writing and re-shaping the stories we tell ourselves. A powerful practice. A beautiful piece, thank you for giving it space here, Tamzin!
First of all Tamzin, thank you for letting Lindsay share this piece.
There's so much to unpack and reflect on here. I realize that I can't live without my own stories, but at the same time I know that they are not based in any kind of objective reality. That's why when Lindsay wrote "when we are in a story, it can be so hard to see, objectively, whether it’s helping or hindering us" it really struck a chord with me. The narratives that I've told myself have given me purpose and motivation, but at the same time, In retrospect I can also see the pain and suffering that they had inflicted on loved ones.
I know that's a lot to unload here. But stories are very volatile with the potential to both build and destroy. I applaud Lindsay for being able to step outside and reveal both the healing as well as the harm that they are capable of.
Oh, what lovely timing. I have just properly discovered Lindsay's writing and come here fresh from a delightful comment exchange with her on this topic of stories.
I'm realizing that these things can be true at the same time, that our stories made us who we are and that we don't have to stay stuck in them.
Thank you Tamzin for allowing Lindsay to share her story.
I never fully grasped the importance of maternal generational impact until recently, which I find astounding given I have spent my adult life peeling back the layers of self-knowing. This is part of myself I did not want to see. But once we see we cannot unsee.
While I have received many gifts from the women in my family there are a lot of things I need to release. I have work to do but am paying attention to see where their imprint shows up in my life and using my conscious, thinking mind to access the deeper part of me. Those ties that bind are wound tightly within. Thank you Lindsay.
Lindsay, our early trauma experiences - and our reactions to them - are similar. Hyper-vigilance and rescuing was how I coped too. I’ve been excavating my past, and familial patterns etc for five years now. It is important work! Thank you for writing about your experience.
Such a great piece “writing is a medicine” - quite!
Thank you for sharing this. I love Lindsay’s writing, it is always so considered, self-aware, deeply thought-provoking and yet comforting too. Thank you both! xx
This is so beautiful and lovely to read how healing writing can be from Lindsay 💛
I love Lindsay's work around memoir and mental health, so important to give our stories space. Really enjoyed this and totally agree about the benefits of writing and re-shaping the stories we tell ourselves. A powerful practice. A beautiful piece, thank you for giving it space here, Tamzin!
First of all Tamzin, thank you for letting Lindsay share this piece.
There's so much to unpack and reflect on here. I realize that I can't live without my own stories, but at the same time I know that they are not based in any kind of objective reality. That's why when Lindsay wrote "when we are in a story, it can be so hard to see, objectively, whether it’s helping or hindering us" it really struck a chord with me. The narratives that I've told myself have given me purpose and motivation, but at the same time, In retrospect I can also see the pain and suffering that they had inflicted on loved ones.
I know that's a lot to unload here. But stories are very volatile with the potential to both build and destroy. I applaud Lindsay for being able to step outside and reveal both the healing as well as the harm that they are capable of.