Hey Tazmin! This reminds me of some stuff I wrote a while back about how narratives around struggle can end up being a bit unhelpful: a story about how things were bad, but now are good is obviously really empowering, but it doesn’t always give you the space for things to get bad again for a while.
I’ve found it’s helpful to try and see the good times as a part of what you are and what you’ll be, which will grow and grow as you do? That maybe helps when life doesn’t fit the shape of a story, which it often doesn’t.
But I don’t think you’re a fraud for being a human; for finding something important and then losing it again. If you found out you have keys and say “I have keys,” you aren’t a fraud if you don’t know where you’ve put them. You have learned something important and vital, and can teach other people to learn it too! It’s fine if it isn’t constantly there with you, I think. Obviously I’m just some person on the internet, but that is my view, in any case
Well January was a fairly slow descent into Feb which now has me not quite at rock bottom, but not far off. But as you say there has to be sinking to allow for resurfacing and I'm optimistic that having taken in less water this time, I'll come up quicker.
Thank you for sharing. I have real 'new year, new you!' social fatigue. I prefer 'new year, same me quietly working on some stuff'....! X
Hey Tazmin! This reminds me of some stuff I wrote a while back about how narratives around struggle can end up being a bit unhelpful: a story about how things were bad, but now are good is obviously really empowering, but it doesn’t always give you the space for things to get bad again for a while.
I’ve found it’s helpful to try and see the good times as a part of what you are and what you’ll be, which will grow and grow as you do? That maybe helps when life doesn’t fit the shape of a story, which it often doesn’t.
But I don’t think you’re a fraud for being a human; for finding something important and then losing it again. If you found out you have keys and say “I have keys,” you aren’t a fraud if you don’t know where you’ve put them. You have learned something important and vital, and can teach other people to learn it too! It’s fine if it isn’t constantly there with you, I think. Obviously I’m just some person on the internet, but that is my view, in any case
Well January was a fairly slow descent into Feb which now has me not quite at rock bottom, but not far off. But as you say there has to be sinking to allow for resurfacing and I'm optimistic that having taken in less water this time, I'll come up quicker.
Beautiful as always! 😘